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Becoming a Diplomatic Master in Middle-earth

By Empress Jhazala | May 27, 2023 | 7:00 AM

Diplomacy, a noble craft forged in the crucible of international relations, has found its place in the hearts of Rise to War players. Just like neighboring realms on the brink of conflict, players must handle delicate situations with finesse and expertise. In the world of diplomacy, emissaries rise to the occasion, using their eloquence to defuse tensions, promote patience, and prevent the calamity of war. While we often associate "diplomacy" with formal diplomatic affairs and high-level politics, its importance extends beyond that, influencing our daily interactions at work and even our relationships with loved ones.

Diplomacy is the art of advancing ideas and causes without causing unnecessary strife or triggering catastrophic events. It requires a deep understanding of human nature's intricacies, which can undermine agreements and fuel conflicts. A skilled diplomat possesses the foresight and grace to navigate these challenges.

At the core of diplomacy lies the recognition that our passionate insistence on having our way often stems from a deeper desire for respect and validation within a relationship. Our arguments become fiercer and more relentless when we feel our need for appreciation and esteem has been disregarded. Amidst heated debates, diplomats understand the importance of being heard and acknowledged. They realize that, in addition to winning the argument, it is equally important to make others feel understood. Once someone demonstrates empathy and understanding, we become more receptive to their viewpoint. Diplomats invest great effort in nurturing the overall health of a relationship, allowing for smaller compromises along the way without causing unbearable humiliation. They understand the emotional dynamics at play and trade generously to avoid excessive costs in other practical matters.

In negotiations, diplomats understand the delicate dance of requesting change from others. They grasp the futility of stating their wishes too directly and realize that diagnosing someone's growth needs must be accompanied by an approach that facilitates that growth. They acknowledge that fear often hinders personal growth and recognize the importance of offering love and reassurance when addressing difficult matters. Diplomats know that a diagnosis, to avoid sounding like mere criticism, should be delivered by someone who openly acknowledges their own imperfections. They understand that openly acknowledging one's own imperfections from the beginning can be one of the most impactful teaching strategies.

Diplomats are not always obligated to speak the unvarnished truth or embrace heroic transparency. They understand the importance of using minor lies strategically to serve greater truths. They recognize that emphasizing specific local details might undermine essential principles in a relationship. Consequently, they might genuinely praise a financial report or a homemade cake, not to deceive, but to affirm the truth of their overall connection. Diplomats understand the delicate balance where a small lie can safeguard a significant truth. They also acknowledge their own aversion to harsh realities and secretly hope that others, at times, might lie to spare them unnecessary discomfort.

One remarkable quality of diplomats is their serenity in the face of egregious misbehavior: a sudden burst of anger, an unfounded accusation, or a malicious remark. They do not take such actions personally, even when they are the target of rage. Instead, they instinctively seek reasonable explanations, holding onto the memory of better moments and recognizing the underlying humanity of the other person. Diplomats possess self-awareness, understanding that moments of lost perspective are often the result of exhaustion or passing despair, warranting sympathy rather than disdain. They avoid aggravating heated situations through self-righteousness, as they intimately know themselves and possess a comprehensive memory. Someone who bangs a fist on the table or expresses extravagant opinions may simply be wrestling with worry, fear, or intense enthusiasm—conditions that call for empathy rather than disgust.

Furthermore, the diplomat understands the art of strategic engagement, knowing when to avoid direct confrontation. They do not rush to impart wisdom at the first opportunity; instead, they patiently await the most receptive moment for their message to be heard. They possess the uncanny ability to disarm difficult individuals by responding in unexpected ways. When faced with a tirade, rather than becoming defensive, the diplomatic individual may suggest a pleasant lunch, subtly diffusing the tension. In the face of harsh criticism, they might nod in partial agreement, acknowledging that they, too, have entertained similar thoughts. They willingly yield ground, avoiding getting entangled in arguments that divert attention from the underlying issues. Through it all, they steadfastly remember the presence of a better version of the person before them, even if their current behavior appears less than favorable.

The diplomat's hallmark tone of reasonableness is rooted in a deep sense of realism. They possess intimate knowledge of the flaws, unreasonableness, and anxieties that permeate our existence. They understand the countless hurdles that challenge even the strongest bonds of marriage, business partnerships, friendships, and societies. Yet, their good-natured approach to problem-solving arises from the acceptance that compromise is an essential ingredient for navigating an imperfect world.

While diplomats may embody politeness, they are not averse to delivering difficult news with uncommon frankness. Far too often, we cloak our intentions, attempting to preserve our image by tip-toeing around harsh decisions. In doing so, we unwittingly exacerbate the situation. True kindness lies in helping those we are about to disappoint adjust to the realities they face. By delivering a sharp, clean blow, the diplomatic individual extinguishes the torture of false hope, willingly accepting the frustrations that may follow. They are kind enough to make themselves the target of resentment if it eases the pain of others.

The diplomat's triumph lies in their realism—a deep understanding of our inherently flawed, unreasonable, and at times comically absurd nature. They remain hopeful, however, believing in the potential for progress once our human disturbances are acknowledged, cushioned with reassurance, interpreted accurately, and treated with respect. Diplomacy teaches us that even in a world marred by imperfection, many great accomplishments can be achieved by skillfully navigating the crooked, yet endearing, complexities of human relationships.

So, embrace the art of diplomacy in the realm of Middle-earth. Master the skills of understanding, empathy, tact, and compromise. Let your words and actions build bridges rather than ignite conflicts more serious than what the game intends. Always remember that we are friendly competitors, not enemies. 

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